Who Profits?

Anyone can admit that we are easily influenced and swayed by what seems to be a popular opinion. Most people would agree that it is much easier to be a PART of the masses than to be APART from them.

"What is popular is not always right,
and what is right is not always popular."

When it comes to parenting (specifically birthing and infant care) we are led to believe that our instincts are no longer necessary and that technology knows better than nature. But who profits from this philosophy? Certainly not mother and baby. Instead, there is a very large LITERAL profit to be made off of influencing you in your choices.

There is money to be made off of where you birth, how you birth and also, how you feed and treat your infant. The hospital makes a very large portion of their profit from the labor and delivery ward and let's face it, hospitals are businesses. They do NOT want to lose that money, even if it might mean safer outcomes can occur at home for low risk women. Obstetricians make thousands of dollars off your birth (and prenatal care) whereas homebirth midwives make around $4000 (for both the birth and prenatal care total). A cesarean can cost you more than $20,000 and only costs your OB 30 minutes of work (and a nice early bed time if you aren't "progressing" fast enough). Vaccinations, routine exams and procedures (episiotomy, circumcision, forcep delivery) all take just a moment to do/perform and net a nice profit.

Now, before you stop reading and get angry and tell me I hate OBs and that I think hospitals are evil, let me say, no. OBs are SPECIALISTS. They are INCREDIBLY skilled in saving what needs to be saved BUT for that, I think *most* of them have a difficult time knowing and trusting that birth is normal. If your focus of study is all that can go wrong with something, it's hard NOT to want to act in a precautionary manner. For this, I believe that most OBs truly have women's best interest at heart with certain things. However, there are a few scenarios that are indisputably self centered and dangerous, serving the woman absolutely no benefit.

To continue, it is ignorant to think that every ad or persuasion doesn't have an underlying hidden meaning. Formula companies for example want to make money. They do not care about you and your baby, they care only for the profit. At the beginning, when infant formulas were first introduced, they provided a way for the women who could truly not breastfeed or have a wet nurse a way to provide for their infant children. Again, just like the hospitals, this can be and was life saving for those infants. However, there was profit to be made, a feminist movement of choice and a desire to no longer have to feel tied down to your children...and they marketed that. Today they advertise with such sayings as "Just as good as breastmilk" or "Has all your baby needs!" Stop. Think. Who profits from promoting breastfeeding? The mother and child who nurse. Who profits from promoting formula feeding? The industry.

Am I going to lose sleep over another parents' choices? Nope. But as a parent who did things this way and that way before stepping back and evaluating the choices, I wish only to share the other side of the glass with you. I would never tell a woman what choice she should make, I can only share what I know and what I continue to learn, because I care.

To say that homebirthers are selfish or that it's dangerous, because that is what those who profit from your hospital birth tell you, well...that makes you sound not only uneducated, but silly.

Remember who profits from routine interventions in normal birth: it's not you...and it's certainly not the baby.

Homebirth Babble

Most recentlyGisele Bundchen's home birth of her son in December has been a topic of discussion. But there have been many other celebrities who've birthed at home. This is of course good for the homebirth awareness cause, but myself and some others wonder if this makes the anti-homebirth group cry "Trend!" in regards to women choosing to birth at home. Obviously, there's hardly anything trendy about the way women have been birthing since the dawn of time. However, since the big push to move birth from home to hospital and replace midwives with OBs it seems that anyone who has a natural birth even in the hospital is "primal and crazy".

If you've ever been around a group of women discussing birth, you've probably noticed a similar trend. Stories told with a life threatening complication and drama, how they had to endure this and the doctor had to do that and it was an awful horrible experience...but it was all worth it to have a healthy baby. You may have been one of these women, I know I was. I told my first birth story with excitement and enthusiasm but it wasn't that of a happy or calm birth, it was that of peril and fear; of internal monitoring and the "need" for an episiotomy that's left me forever scarred (literally and figuratively).

Now, if you've been lucky enough to talk to a group of homebirth (or even natural birthing) women, the stories are much different. They have that same excited tone and dramatic arm movements, but yet, there's a calm and tranquil quality to the woman who experienced birth in her own home. Even if a "complication" arose, they usually include how their midwife simply did X, Y or Z and the rest went smoothly.

I would love to hear these celebrity accounts of homebirth, straight from their mouths. After all, drama is their JOB, so I can only imagine how intriguing these stories are. I do hope to continue to see many more celebrities choose homebirth, and I'd love to hear more public speeches on their experiences. I also hope that the anti-homebirth movement stops claiming that homebirthing is a "trendy, new-age" idea simply because in the last CENTURY birth was taken from home.

I'd also love to hear YOUR thoughts on celebrities, homebirth and the idea of the supposed trend. What are your thoughts on it all?

The mind is a powerful thing!

It may sounds absurd or nutty to say that you can actually think yourself into the pains of labor, but it is true. Fear creates pain and tension, pain and tension create fear and thus, if you fear your labor you can be stuck in a vicious fear/pain cycle.

So, how do we break this cycle, especially for new moms and how on earth do we not fear something we do not know?

Well, you start by telling yourself just how well you can do this because, of course, as a woman and mother you are amazing. There are many different birth affirmations, you can do a quick google search and find many listings. Some are corny as you can get while others are so very powerful. My personal favorite is:

"My contractions cannot be bigger than me for they come from me."

Oh how mighty and true!

If you begin as early in your pregnancy as you like, saying positive things to yourself everyday about how your body knows to grow your baby perfectly, knows how to birth your baby perfectly, knows how and when to be born...you can really have a strong and powerful effect on your labor and delivery. Woman have sworn that they've turned breech babies, changed malpositioned babies, and sped up labor simply by speaking to their baby and themselves. Our minds are powerful things, if we let them they can rule us. However, there is no reason why we cannot be stronger than our negative thoughts, after all, they come from inside our very own head, so there is no reason we cannot will them away with more powerful thoughts of the positive variety.

So if you are feeling anxious, nervous, inadequate about birthing because you're "such a big baby" about everything else or you've heard it's "the worst pain in the world" tell yourself just the opposite. Why let others talk you down because of their own failures in birth or their own insecurities with their hidden strengths? Instead, tell them that you appreciate their concern buy you are confident in your body's ability to work through this safely and strongly.

You are woman, you will birth!